• Addiction is a leading cause of much human misery. This is where individuals persist in repeating certain behaviour patterns or activities that have become socially, psychologically or physically harmful to themselves, and they repeat these patterns at a risk of cost to themselves or others which may lead to feelings of helplessness & hopelessness and reactions of denial and rage.

  • This ‘dependence’ or addiction can be both physical and/or psychological and the lifestyle changes necessary to become free of this ‘dependence’ can be the most difficult part of changing behaviour.

  • I understand the importance of the decision you have made to stop using substances, I will work with you to elicit the triggers to certain behaviours, use of rewards and look at problems solving and goals in order to look at a more functional way of coping in the world.

  • Neuroscience.pdf substance use

  • https://youtu.be/uF26vpj5lk

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Attachment theory concerns the propensity to form strong emotional bonds with particular individuals, or with regard to children, their main caregiver. This is an innate characteristic present in infancy and continuing throughout adolescence, adulthood and into old age (Bowlby, 1973, 1982). The attachment system is activated in adversity or when an individual is distressed or ill, when there is the urge to seek comfort and support from the primary attachment figure or caregiver. However when the individual feels secure and not distressed there is the urge to explore the environment, to play, work and travel.

A secure home base is seen to be crucial for optimal functioning and mental health; however for some individuals this home base may have been the reason for distress.

Loss of an attachment figure or loved one is traumatic and tragic; this loss can be even more complex when it activates unresolved painful memories of earlier relational trauma and loss. The process of grieving and bereavement can be long and painful; the process can include such feelings as:

  • Denial: of the experience of loss.

  • Anger: wanting something to change.

  • Bargaining: an attempt to change this situation to avoid the pain of acceptance.

  • Despair: a painful experience, entering into a place where depression can accompany the working through and morning of a loss.

  • Acceptance: where the energy that was tied up in this stuck grieving is finally freed up for use elsewhere.

Therapy offers a space where you can begin to mourn and come to terms with your loss. Perinatal group support and therapy offers a space to explore intergenerational patterns of coping, and gain support in caring for your infant with a knowledge of your own past and why you may have felt depressed, anxious or alone.